The article was written by a woman named Kay Hymowitz. In her piece, she writes about why so many 20-something year old men refuse to grow up, and/or settle down, and the article kind of pissed me off, after only the first couple of paragraphs. So much in fact that it almost makes me want to write a letter to the world addressing all of these idiots. Wonder how much that would cost in postage ?
Here's a link the entire article if you want to check it out, but I wanted to share one of the most poignant lines with you guys incase you didn't want to take the time to paruse the entire thing like I just did on a rather unproductive Friday night. Alas, rest assured my friends, I'm going to be showering in a bit to head out in search of some playtime with the opposite sex downtown this evening. Hokay, sidetracked already (damn wine)..here is the link:
One paragraph that initially stuck out at me was this one:
Their argument, in effect, was that the SYM (Single Young Male) is putting off traditional markers of adulthood—one wife, two kids, three bathrooms—not because they're immature but because they're angry. They're angry because they thinks that young women are dishonest, self-involved, slutty, manipulative, shallow, controlling, and gold-digging.
My first reaction was WOW! Well..to this I could obviously go off on some crazy psycho girl rampage with a hatrid filled rebuttle, but I'll contain myself. Instead, I'll be much more poised with my two cents on that matter. Sometimes I have to remind myself of it, but I am indeed..still a lady :)
In light of some of my past behaviors in the last year, I can not, nor will I deny that I have not exhibited most (but not all) of these behaviors in the past 12 months--give or take. But (and that is a BIG but) it wasn't without just cause.
See the truth is this, 'we woman' have been driven to these standards as pseudo defense mechanism if you will. We are dishonest, because men are equally as dishonest. If they can get away with it, then we should be able to as well! We are self involved because men are equally as bad. We are slutty for two reasons a) as my friend Angela says "a girl's gotta eat." and fairvilla doesn't always cut it and b)I don't see a need to waste my feelings and inner workings on men that are not willing to express the same feelings in return. Or in some instances, not deserving! We are manipulative...well.. I really don't have a rebuttle to that one. :::insert foot into mouth::: Moving right along. Shallow, hmm.. I don't consider myself to be shallow, so I'll skip ahead. Controlling, yes. I'll take that one. I am controlling b/c I don't like to be hurt. I'm usually "the giver" and that always leads to me becoming a 'doormat' of sorts. I control my destiny with men, b/c the majority of them are just plain jerks! I look at it like this. When someone is willing to dig deep enough to get to know me as a person before they want to sleep with me, then in just time, I'll open up. Until then, I'll remain in control of my own destiny. And, unfortunately sometimes that involves controlling men. As for the last one, well I live in Orlando. The city filled with a very large population of narcasistic silicone injected women. However, I am most definately NOT a gold digger. But I could see where this accusation would fit the mold for most 20 something year old females. Heck, I am so much NOT a gold-digger that when I went out on my date last week, I even paid for my own wine at the wine room, and the guy had asked ME out, so there! Granted, I should have let him pay, but it was a self righteous moment, and so I used my own card for the evening.
It is now 9:15 and while I was initially thinking that I was NOT going to go off on a tangemt, and it inadvertently looks like that is exactly what I just did. Oh well. I'm off to shower and get ready for some shenaigans. Read the rest of the article, it's quite enlightening.
Love you life and live for yourself-
Mel
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