Why Men Marry Bitches-A Blog By Dani

My friend Dani wrote this, and I think it's something that all women need to be reminded of from time to time. I've cut and pasted this verbatim to what she wrote, b/c truthfully, I could not have put it any better myself.
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Why Men Love Bitches... by Dani
So.... My friend gave me this book to read called, "Why Men Marry Bitches". I have just finished reading it and took away some valuable thoughts. The book basically describes being a BITCH as a strong woman who has her own identity and is secure with who she is. She won't change for a man nor will she sit back. She has her own opinions and values them. She doesn't need a man to be happy. She is happy with herself and he is a bonus.
This made me think about a lot of women I know, including myself. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in liking a guy and wanting a relationship, we loose who we are.
So I challenge you to be who you are. Love who you are, no matter what anyone else says. Be strong, have convictions and stand up for them. Respect who you are and rejoice in it.
All in all be a BITCH - Babe In Total Control of Herself ;)
Below are the "Relationship Principles" that were in the book.....
(Not really into the whole relationship viewpoint and marriage but the point of being content in who you are is what I got out of reading this)
My favorites are 's 1, 5, 11, 30, 54, 55, 70, 72, 73

1 In romance, there's nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is.
2 He marries the woman who won't lay down like linoleum.
3 He doesn't marry a woman who is perfect. He marries the woman who is INTERESTING.
4 When a woman is trying too hard, a man will usually test to see how hard she's willing to work for it. He'll start throwing relationship Frisbees, just to see how hard she'll run and how high she'll jump.
5 Don't believe what anyone tells you about yourself.
6 Men see how you dress, and then make assumptions about your relationship potential.
7 When a man sees you wearing very revealing clothes, he'll usually assume you don't have anything else going for you.
8 When he sees you scantily dress, he is not reminded of how great you look naked. He immediately thinks of all the other men you've slept with.
9 Every guy knows he can find a girl who is simply satisfied with satisfying him. They are much more turned on by a woman who cares about her own pleasure as well.
10 You can tell how much someone respects you by how much he respects your opinion. If he doesn't respect your opinion, he won't respect you.
11 It is better to be disliked for being who you are than to be loved for who you are not.
12 Men like to be curious. They like to feel that there's more to the story than what they already know.
13 The mental challenge is not, "Can I get her to sleep with me?" The mental challenge is, "Can I get and keep her attention."
14 Your power gets lost the minute you start asking, "Where do I stand?" Because what you've just told him is that the terms of the relationship are now his to dictate.
15 As soon as a man has his guard up, he will not fall in love or get attached. The only way he'll get attached is if you lower his guard first.
16 When a woman rushes in too quickly, a man will assume she is in love with a "fantasy" or the idea of having a relationship. But if he has to slowly win her over, incrementally, he'll think she's falling in love with who he is.
17 Don't even mention the word "commitment". That's the whole trick. The less you say about it, the closer you are to getting one.
18 If he has no guarantees, becomes attached, and thinks you could be gone at any time, that's when he'll cherish the idea of securing a relationship.
19 There's nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get.
20 As soon as a woman hands a man a more serious commitment on a silver platter, he'll be reluctant to take it.
21 Don't be so blunt, obvious, or available that you come across as having already made up your mind about the guy.
22 You want to figure out his pattern, but don't let him figure out yours.
23 Men are far more smitten when they feel like they are "stealing" your time away from something else you could have been doing.
24 When a woman makes a man feel he's trusted, it makes him feel strong and worthy. It makes him want to be honorable and do the right thing.
25 Men like rules and they like guidelines. If there's something you don't like, he'll respect you for voicing it. He wants to know what the "do's and don'ts" are.
26 Men love knowing there's a small part of you that they can't get to.
27 Men read a lot into where you've been, by how dolled up you are when you get home. If you are dolled up and you weren't with him, it will keep him wondering a little.
28 The magic formula is to give a little.... and then pull back. Give a little.... and then pull back.
29 Women are constantly being told amazing sex will win a man's heart. This is false. Just because a man sleeps with you doesn't mean he cares about you. Nor will good sex make him care about you.
30 The way to weed out the contenders from the pretenders is to assess their attitude about waiting for sex. If he likes you, he'll be happy just being in your company.
31 The purpose of waiting is not just to seem classier. You also want to give yourself time to observe him and find out key facts about him.
32 Who he tells you he is in the beginning has very little to do with how he will treat you. If there's sex involved, he'll promise you things you've never even heard of.
33 When you aren't mind-blown after sex, and you continue to focus on your own life, he'll automatically start looking at you differently. Then he'll start wanting to secure a relationship with you.
34 After sex, behave as if the relationship is still new.
35 Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control.
36 When you maintain a bit of privacy and he has to wonder a little where you are, you are stimulating his imagination. The second he can't get ahold of you he'll send out an APB to find you.
37 To a man, a relationship without sex represents a relationship with no love, no affection and no emotional connection.
38 Always preserve the mystery. Keep the sex sporadic and unpredictable. It makes it much more intense for a man.
39 When a woman reacts emotionally, men get three things: attention, control, and the feeling of importance.
40 When you are easily manipulated, he will assume he doesn't have to give as much in the way of a commitment in order to keep you there.
41 The best way to set limits with a guy when he's testing you is by controlling the ebb and flow of your attention. An emotional reaction is always a reward, even if it's negative attention.
42 Men hear what they see.
43 When a man tries to make you jealous, it rarely has anything to do with his desire for someone else. When you are upset he gets the reassurance that you care.
44 Once you start doing the same thing he was doing, suddenly, the bad behavior will magically disappear.
45 When a man doesn't call, a bunch of scenarios will typically run through a woman's mind. Similarly, his imagination will run wild when he doesn't hear from you.
46 The more rational and calm you remain, the more emotional he will become.
47 To a man, it is totally inappropriate to be emotional when talking about something important. When you speak calmly, he assumes it's much more important.
48 Many men reduce women to a set of givens. A man relies on the fact that most woman are emotional and that he'll be able to push your emotional buttons once he finds out where they are. When he can't, he'll often crumble and become the more vulnerable one in the relationship.
49 He is testing to see if you believe in yourself. He wants to know who is at the controls. When you aren't easily shaken he sees "This one can't be manipulated."
50 To encourage the right behavior, state what you want, and then give him the solution. Show him how he can be your hero.
51 When he's dating you, he'll constantly be on guard and watching to discern, "Does she like me for who I am? Or for what I can provide?"
52 When a man sees you are focused on your own dreams or on elevating yourself, he feels safer marrying you because he doesn't worry about what you'll be trying to take away from him.
53 Men don't judge how much money you have. They notice how you budget what you do have.
54 Men admire women who want to elevate themselves and pull themselves up by their own bootstraps, and fear women who are social climbers at a man's expense.
55 He doesn't want to marry a helpless little girl whom he will have to take care of.
56 For a man, the words respect and trust are interchangeable. If he doesn't respect you, he will not trust you. And without trust, he will always keep you at arm's length.
57 When he gives you something, always acknowledge the kindness behind the gesture, not the material item itself. Just like women can't get too much appreciation for his contribution.
58 A man's favorite word is appreciate. He wants more than anything to feel revered and valued by a woman. When she's appreciative, it motivates him to give her the world.
59 A man will not be thinking about how much he spends on you if he believes you could be "the one" In the beginning, he will be happy to pick up the tab.
60 A man who is financially comfortable but still very stingy doesn't want to give - anything. He won't want to be inconvenienced with his time, with sharing a dresser - much less a home or a life together.
61 When you move into someone else's place, you don't just give up your personal space and belongings. More important, nearly always you also lose your feeling of independence.
62 If marriage is extremely important to you and you are ready to set a wedding date, don't move in unless you have a ring and a date.
63 The biggest turn-on for a man is knowing that he is in love with a woman he can really count on, who will really be there for him.
64 Set your own timelines and limits, and leave if it's time to get out. Until then, don't let him know about your timelines or deal breakers. Then keep your eyes open and watch how he manages his 50 percent of the relationship. Then you'll get the real deal much quicker.
65 A guy who really thinks you could be "the one" will say very little about marriage. He'll be much more reserved, and will slowly open up over the course of several months, because he won't want to scare you off.
66 The more control you have over yourself, the more of a hold you will have on his heart.
67 If a man really cares, he feels vulnerable. That's when he needs a protective shield the most and that's when he'll often behave more coolly.
68 Whenever boredom sets in, simply break the routine. As soon as the routine changes, it will pique his interest and the relationship will become interesting again.
69 You have a much better chance of getting engaged when a man doesn't feel pressured into it.
70 The bitch won't allow herself to be with a man who is biding his time until something better comes along.
71 The bitch doesn't hint about marriage or ask, "Where is this going?" Instead, she hints about the removal of herself from the relationship. The word marriage never even comes up.
72 When you stand up for yourself in a dignified, feminine, and womanly way, you can get anything you want from a man. When you place a high value on yourself in the right way so will he.
73 In life, half the battle has to do with the lens you choose to see yourself through. Your fulfillment hinges on whether you see yourself through a positive lens or a negative one.
74 Men rarely take it as a compliment when you bend over backward or become too agreeable. Men want to feel special, and when you are too nice he feels ordinary, because he assumes you'd acquiesce and become a yes-person with any man.
75 He doesn't marry a woman who puts him on a throne. He marries a woman who is his equal... that special woman whom he can share all life's special moments with.